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You must have, many a time, knowingly or unknowingly ignored people with or around you, just to be on your phone. Have you ever thought if this very behaviour has a name?
No..?
Well, it's called Phubbing.
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| Phubbing |
It's basically a portmanteau, coined from a combination of the words 'Phone' and 'Snubbing', which means 'to ignore'.
Phubbing might not be a part of your daily vocabulary, but it certainly is a part of your daily life in today's world. You could just think, how many times we pull out our phone, pausing a real conversation with someone after hearing a notification bell and then get lost in the social media universe, ending up phubbing the person we were in a conversation with.
Effects:
This behaviour might seem to be relatively harmless but researchers say, it might affect your relationship to a great extent, at a psychological level.
It's an irony that on one hand, phones and social media are supposed to be used to connect people and bring them closer, but phubbing, on the other hand, is very much likely to destroy our in-person relationships.
It can hugely affect your mental health. In the latest study on the subject, it was found to be a threat to four fundamental needs - Belongingness, self-esteem, meaningful existence and control, by making phubbed people feel excluded and ostracized. And sadly, it happens all the time!
Many researches have shown that it can affect relationships. They found that when spouses phub each other, they're more likely to experience depression and lower marital satisfaction. If your life partner is on phone, that shows that they are prioritizing something over you in those moments of togetherness, which is absolutely hurtful.
It can't be good for anyone, be it the phubbed or the phubber. Phubbers could get their reputation destroyed as habitual phone users are normally seen as less polite and attentive, and a bad coversationalist.
Solution:
If you find yourself a consistent phubber, you may try to make certain rules for yourself which would prevent you from doing so, everytime you tend to phub, which would eliminate the habit of unnecessary phone usage from you eventually. Keeping your phone away while eating, meditation and mindfullness, getting more involved in in-person conversations and similar other habits would help you re-train your attentional capacity.
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| An in-person conversation |
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